Howdy! I thought I would do a more serious post today. It's been a little over a year since I've done an "Honest to Blog". Something that has been on my mind quite a lot recently is Body Image. Let me begin by saying I am the poster child for body image issues. I've extreme dieted, I've wanted gum surgery, and a nose job. I became so distressed one time over my appearance I broke a mirror. This all may sound rather vain and egotistical, but I think body image issues are rooted in something much deeper than that. I feel that people want our bodies to look a certain way because we correlate that with being viewed as important, successful, wanted, loved, and happy by society. Most of us by the time we hit puberty have been told our flaws enough times that we feel we need to fix these things in order to be those characteristic I mentioned.
I'm not sure if this applies to other people, but the opinions of others have a huge influence on me. I can't just take people's harsh comments with a grain of salt. I internalize them. They validate my own dislike for my body and appearance. Even when someone gives me a compliment, that is harder for me to believe.
Some days I will wake up, get dressed for the day and feel so confident and beautiful, but then this other thought creeps into my mind. The thought that if I view myself as these positive attributes then I am being delusional or vain. Let me ask you if you heard someone say "I am good looking" what would your thought be? Probably "They are full of themselves", right? So it's almost like we are trained by society to not be overly confident in our appearance. I don't think this is right. I wish we could all look in the mirror and start singing the lyrics to Sexy and I Know It.
I think social media plays such a large role in image problems as well. We are reminded on almost a daily basis of the things we don't have, and of the people who are more successful and popular compared to us, and who are deemed more attractive.
With that said, I do think it's fine to work towards goals. Wanna be more stylish? slowly upgrade your wardrobe. Wanna be better at makeup? Practice applying it. Wanna be healthier? Eat right and incorporate more excersie into your daily activities. But those are attainable goals and you can be kind to yourself throughout the process.
I want to love my body and be confident in my looks. The National Eating Disorder Association listed 10 things that you can do to help with body image, and I think I am going to try them! I am honestly so sick of feeling inadequate over my body. The same body that works hard on a daily basis to keep me alive. So I am going to work hard to become confident and comfortable in my own skin.
Remember, you're only as beautiful as YOU think you are. Your opinion is the one that matters.